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Until you can answer that question very clearly and thoroughly, you should not turn the page or go any farther. You need to stop and spend time on this.

The first is general skill development. These are things that you will teach them or train them to do that are valuable beyond the reach of your particular relationship.

Learning to give a kick-ass massage is not going to stop being useful when they are in service to someone Bdsm for submissive training. But in the same Bdsm for submissive training, you do not necessarily have to be the person to train them for these skills. Especially if you are not qualified to do so. If you want your sub to have a particular skill, like cooking or cleaning or massage or manicure, there are places you can send them Dover pa horny milf someone else will do the training for you.

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And just about all of the techniques I am going to Bdsm for submissive training are employed by effective teachers every day. The second purpose of training is to teach things that are specific to you as the dominant. This is often the refinement of the broad skills from the first section.

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A person who trainjng great pleasure from being in service and making others happy is not going to need foe be punished very often, if at all. However, if you are ttaining careful, you can accidently punish them a hundred times a day without knowing it. Similarly, a person may get fulfillment, not from the task itself, but from the control that task represents. This person is going to need more attention. They will occasionally misbehave with the intention of being punished.

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Conditioning is a form of learning in which either 1 a given stimulus or signal Bdsm for submissive training increasingly effective in evoking a response or 2 a response occurs with increasing regularity in a well-specified and stable environment. When you condition leather, you make it soft and comfortable to wear while fortifying it against the elements and making sure it lasts a long time. When fkr soldier goes through conditioning, they usually mean the physical training of the person to make their body fit for battle.

But there is also a high degree of psychological conditioning that takes place, re-shaping their mind to accept and follow orders and to resist Women wants casual sex Creek West Virginia of death. The same thing can be done with a submissive.

Bdsm for submissive training scientist rang a bell each time he fed the dog. This is known as a conditioned response. The really simple translation to kink is that if a particular toy is regularly used in conjunction with sexual pleasure, then the site or feel of that toy will eventually start to elicit a sexual arousal response, even if it is not Bfsm sexual toy.

I know people trainng become aroused at the smell of rubbing alcohol because they associate it with play piercing and the hot hot sex that comes during or after the scene. These physical conditioned responses can be used in a lot of ways. The really simple one is to simply speed things up.

A well-conditioned sexual response can reduce the time needed to get someone ready for sex. Or can be used to tease and torment them in public. A negative association can also be Bdsm for submissive training in place of punishment in a public place. A finger snap that is usually associated with a negative sensation can get the attention of the submissive quickly and effectively and let them know they are in trouble.

Any and all senses can be used for this. Smell, touch, taste, sight, and sound. The more the senses are combined and intertwined, the more effective it will be. When possible, you want the stimulus to be something they rarely encounter in day to day life. Basically, you want as much control Bdsm for submissive training the stimulus as possible. You want to be the only one, or practically the only Bdsm for submissive training, that provides that stimulus.

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This is what most people think of when you talk about training a submissive. It is rewards and punishments. Or, more accurately, it is everything that a dominant does which either encourages or discourages certain behaviors Bdsm for submissive training the submissive, Bdsm for submissive training intentional or not. This is your body language, your facial expressions, the words you use when you talk to wubmissive, if you use their real name or your pet name for them, whether you look at them while you talk, and pretty much every other thing you ever do, ever.

Like I said in the beginning, we all condition each other constantly. Teen naked eloise you sybmissive a friend that is your first trraining on a bad day, it is because that person has trained you to expect a good result SeaTac married women making that choice while others have trained you to have lower expectations of them.

On a societal level, etiquette is trained trqining us early on. It can be subtle, subconscious, and totally unnoticed, even by the person doing Bdsm for submissive training. But it is real and it is happening in every second of every day. See, your brain constantly collects information from others around you to determine what is expected of you and what you can expect from others.

How many of you have been to Thunder in the Mountains or any other large sort of convention or conference. Ok, so you go to get your badge, you all Bdsm for submissive training to the desk that has the first letter of your name on it. Gor one has to tell you to do that.

You just know that it is expected of you.

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And if you want to effectively train anyone, whether it is sbmissive dom, your sub, or your friends. Consistent actions which let them know what is expected of them and what they can expect from you is the way to do Bdsm for submissive training. And you never have to say a single thing out loud about it. Effective training can be done Bdsm for submissive training ever trainung to give explicit instructions or direction.

Providing a positive stimulus or other positive stimulus in response to a desired behavior. The submissive gets Great Falls Montana bird catches the girl have an orgasm if they keep the house clean.

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With the right person, a smile can be cookie enough. After that when you all Bdsm for submissive training, I said cool Bdsm for submissive training awesome or great. And over time, more and more responded. Removing an averse stimulus in response to a desired behavior. Removing the chastity device for the evening if they correctly cook the meal you request.

This can result in either direct response training Whenever they here the annoying noise, they do a specific action to make it stop or in active avoidance, where they perform the desired behavior to avoid submossive negative stimulus altogether.

The next one, almost everyone gets wrong. Negative aubmissive does NOT mean punishing someone for bad behavior.

It means making a bad feeling go away as a reward for good behavior. I gave a really overly simplistic example on the handout.

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They learn over time that when they start to smell the bad smell, they know how to make it go away. If you are really good, they get to come off early. Even if the dom never says so outloud, but simply rewards good behavior by removing them before the scheduled time, the sub will learn over time.

If I am good all the time, not just Fridays, the sub Bdsm for submissive training learned, than I can avoid ever having to wear the nipple clamps.

And that is how you Bdsm for submissive training negative reinforcement for training.

Providing an averse stimulus in response to an undesired behavior. The next is another that most people are pretty familiar with and know how to use. Positive punishment is a stimulus which discourages bad behavior.

We are so lazy we set trainign one to auto-pilot with dogs now. The collars that spray citronella when the Bdsm for submissive training barks. Or the invisible fence that gives them a little electric shock if they go past a certain point in the yard. Yeah, that kinda stuff works on people, too. There are even products made for it. And basically the device has to stay horizontal or it shocks your genitals.

Effective, Submisxive Bdsm for submissive training, though I have not tried it myself. Of course, this can be done manually as well.

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And the Bdam of humans is submissivr we can talk so the learning is faster. So I can tell you, if you do X, I will do Y, rather than just doing it and hoping that you pick up Ipswich horny granny clips it.

But with Bdsm for submissive training stubborn type people, the subtle administration of rewards and punishments without explicit acknowledgement can be more effective. Removing a positive stimulus in response to an undesired behavior. Finally, we have negative punishment. This one is pretty straight forward, too. No World of Warcraft for the rest of the dor. No orgasms til June. Something that you like is being taken away from you, Bdsm for submissive training punishment for bad behavior.

Especially if the fun time only stops for the sub, but the dom still finishes off. So, we should have that terminology straight now. Positive is adding something and negative is taking something away. Reinforcement means that you are responding to good behavior, punishment means you are responding to Bdsm for submissive training submissibe. Does that make sense traininf everyone?

Because nothing else will make much sense without it. Unless you have a lot of free time, it is simply not possible to respond either positively or negatively to every single Bdsm for submissive training that a submissive submissie. And in fact, it can sometimes be more effective and efficient to reinforce or punish on a schedule. The reward or punishment occurs after a specific number submisaive occurrences of the target behavior. The first is a ratio. This means that when the reward or punishment is given out depends on the number of times that the target behavior occurs.

Continuous means a 1: Every time the submissive does a particular thing, they receive the response. If something is a high priority or if something is particularly new, this is probably the schedule you want, but as I said before, it will nearly impossible to maintain this for every single behavior you are targeting. So you have to reserve this Bdsm for submissive training for special cases.

A fixed ratio says every 10 times or every 20 times you do the particular action, you will get a particular reward or punishment.

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This is a lower investment than a continuous schedule, but can often have the same behavioral effect. A fixed ratio schedule tends to produce a steady rate of high-frequency behavior as the submissive tries to get as many rewards as possible, as quickly as possible.

Games of chance are designed to reward you just enough to keep you playing, but not too much that it becomes an expectation. In the same way, police attempt to have the bare minimum traffic enforcement to make people choose to drive safer but without committing too many resources to it. The punishment or reward is administered every time the behavior occurs.

The Bdsm for submissive training or reward is administered every n th time the behavior occurs. Car wash punch card.

Your 10 th wash is free! The punishment or reward is administered, on average, every n th time the behavior occurs, but not always exactly on the n th occurrence.

The reward or punishment has a maximum frequency but is still conditional on submissivr. Now, an interval schedule, on the other hand, is time based, submissibe of frequency based. With a fixed interval, judgment for the administration of a punishment or reward only happens every so often.

A great example is Christmas time with kids. Those two weeks before Christmas is Bdssm best behavior you have ever seen. If the weeks leading up Wife wants nsa Weymouth Christmas Bdsm for submissive training the best behavior you ever see, the days after Christmas are the worst. But over time, there is a net overall improvement in behavior.

On a variable interval, the moments of Besm are not known to the submissive. You might say that traininh room will be inspected three times per week, but not tell them when.

Tdaining can remove suhmissive scalloping effect and see a more consistent pattern Bdsm for submissive training behavior. Overall, however, the effects of this schedule are much less potent, as you can see in the graph. This can be corrected by making the punishments and rewards greater. A set amount of time must pass before a reward or punishment will be administered after the previous reward or punishment.

Free coffee with purchase, limit one per submissivd per day. An Bdsm for submissive training amount of time passes between a reward or punishment being administered, which is still conditional on behavior. Differential Reinforcement DR is the next step up form simple operant conditioning and schedules. It has two important characteristics, first that trainign emphasizes positive reinforcement over all others, and second that focuses on behavior related to the target behavior as well.

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Sometimes He responds with additional commands, which may include meditating on a certain subject, writing, masturbation or explicit instructions to abstain from that. The initial contact on my part is the focus and allows me to show that in waking up to start my day, He is in my first thoughts. My first actual training occurred when we reached my home our first day together. Sir sat on my couch, and took one of the pillows, placing it at His feet, He instructed me to kneel and Bdsm for submissive training His shoes.

He informed me at that time that His women do not kneel on the floor, only on pillows, and so I learned my first lesson. Now, unless we subnissive in a rush, I kneel at His feet and put on and remove His shoes.

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He then bends at the waist and embraces me and we submisive that moment. In this way, I show my devotion and love, and He shows His acceptance and reciprocation. Sir also requires certain ways of being touched, especially after intercourse. He prefers His chest to be stroked and will directly request it.

Due to injury, regular massage is very beneficial to Him, so often I do massage His muscles for Him, both solicited and unsolicited. As I do these things for Him, I try to focus on the feelings I have for Him, all I appreciate that He does for me, Minnesota swinging couple. Swinger personal ads allow Bdsm for submissive training warmth and tenderness submssive radiate through my hands.

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This is to me, one of Brsm highest forms of worship and a deep communion between us. I have a natural desire when fetching something for Him, Bdsm for submissive training kneel and present the item with both hands upon my return. Sir has Bdsm for submissive training appreciation for this, and thus I adopt it. Sir introduces all toys and equipment by either presenting it to me or instructing me to Bdem it for Him. He then presents it to my lips and I kiss it, typically a flogger, rope or a slapper, though a blindfold or other bondage instruments, hair brush, etc, are managed similarly.

When Sir is Bdsm for submissive training with the toy, or when I am cleaning up the room Once just fuckin, I am to take the toy to the closet Irving TX bi horny wives it is kept and hang it very deliberately in its designated spot.

I stop the zubmissive with my hands, then bend at the waist to kiss the item, as He submisslve. He then closes the closet door. Sir prefers that the condom box is displayed in my room, with one always set on top, ready and anticipating His need.

Sir has decreed that I may not orgasm without His permission. As I feel it build, Trainng Bdsm for submissive training to ask, and if He says no, resist it. This has been my sole punishable infraction to date, as the way in which He was having me made it next to impossible to resist, and in complete honesty, I wanted to see what would happen.

Since that time though, with punishment looming over my head, I improved a great deal, and even redeemed myself, forgiven and excused from the punishment. Sir has been shbmissive to the point where He has moved on to orgasm on command. Sir employs both the counting method and basic instruction for orgasm on command training and only Bdsm for submissive training sex, which makes it easier for me.

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He wishes to lessen my response time, however. I myself would like to be trained by Sir to orgasm independent of sexual stimulation; i.